Welcome to Tots and Teas International community! This is an English-speaking community for International parents with young children in and around Arnhem. We are an intimate community of people who meet each other regularly and are committed to being engaged with the community.

The Concept

Meet other internationally orientated parents and children at our weekly meetings. These playdates are as much for the children as for the parents to find friendship and share experiences. 

The first step to being accepted in the community is to fully agree with our community guidelines below. These guidelines are made with all our safety in our mind.

The Guidelines:

1. Every Monday at 10:00-15:00 and every Friday at 10:00-15:00, we meet up at a child friendly venue in or within 30 minutes of Arnhem. The location is chosen depending on the weather and advised at the beginning of every week by an admin member.
2. After the venue is shared, let us know if you intend to join. The meeting will go ahead as long as two or more people are willing to attend each week. If fewer than two people confirm, the meeting will be canceled (or not, depending on the admin’s decision).
3. You are welcome to host a playdate at your own house – these are often the best playdates! Contact the admin team if this is something you would like to do. If you are the host, please do not feel any pressure to offer large amounts of food or drinks. Coffee, tea, and water can do just fine. The host is responsible for making it safe. Please inform the group if there are any animals in case someone has allergies.
4. Feel free to organize a private party without interfering with our official meetings and events. However, contact the admins beforehand if you would like to announce it in the T&T group. This helps us avoid scheduling conflicts with other events already planned by T&T or others on the same date, and ensures everyone’s events are respected.
5. Refrain from posting alternative play dates for our official play dates or announced events. If you know of a suitable activity on the day of a play date feel free to suggest it to the admin team directly to coordinate. Let’s be respectful of the events organized by T&T or by others.
6. If you organize an event that wasn’t shared with the community beforehand, please refrain from posting pictures of it afterwards. We aim to be an inclusive community where everyone is welcome at events supported by T&T, and we don’t want anyone to feel left out.
7. Being parents, we understand that unexpected events occur; sickness etc., so if something prevents you from attending a playdate, please advise as soon as possible.
8. On the day of the meeting, we ask that those attending to advise the group what time you expect to arrive, so others who attend too, can keep a look out for you.
9. We speak nicely and politely. We encourage and listen; we do not criticize or attack. This means we don’t tolerate accusations, blaming, shaming, or talking behind one another’s back. Instead, we aim to be kind, encourage each other, and offer help and support. In the case of conflicts, the admin team is here to help you resolve them peacefully.
10. Respect is especially important within a group with many different cultures. Please also note that political discussions are not allowed here, to ensure everyone feels safe and included.
11. Please expect that pictures at T&T meetings and events will be taken of you and your kids, and these will be shared on the T&T WhatsApp group. It is not allowed to further share these pictures without the consent of the individuals in the pictures.
12. Admins reserve the right to remove any post that is considered offensive or may create tension within the group. If a post is removed, we will inform you privately of the reason. We hope you understand and respect this policy. Our intention is never to offend anyone — we simply aim to create and maintain a safe and welcoming environment for all members.

Be sure to also check our👉Whatsapp Community Etiquette